The imperative learning lens: Self reflection – use it or loose it.
A fixed, categorical view of communications in your office can markedly diminish or improve your clinical outcomes.
In a recent article from the Stanford Alumni News, forwarded by my good friend and colleague Catherine Fitzgerald PhD, there are real reasons some win and others drop from the metaphoric race: Attribution of responsibility – they did it to me. Blame doesn't work.
Better view: What can learn from this event ?
In this article Professor Carol Dweck and others make the point that blame/attribution doesn't work for the long term, but self reflection, and acceptance of responsibility for change, does. From executives, to psych professionals, to kids in school this important shift of lenses is teachable, and can change lives.
Take a look at the learning applications in this interesting article. Herein a brief quote from it:
Common sense suggests that ability inspires self-confidence. And it does for a while—so long as the going is easy. But setbacks change everything. Dweck realized—and, with colleague Elaine Elliott soon demonstrated—that the difference lay in the kids’ goals. “The mastery-oriented children are really hell-bent on learning something,” Dweck says, and “learning goals” inspire a different chain of thoughts and behaviors than “performance goals.”
Celebrity, good looks, money, natural skills, the corner office, promotions, advanced degrees, all offer opportunities for illusion and denial regarding how-the-world-works.
Said before in many different ways, this thought provoking article provides a fresh look at self reflection:
Lots of applications there with CorePsych thinking.
2 Comments
Lyle,
And on the flip side, one additional step is necessary:
The only way I can work with anyone at any age over about 6 or 7 is by teaching them how to tell me how to get it right…
Then were all singing from the same hymnal, through their own lens.
Thanks,
Chuck
Great post!
In my experience with physicians, particularly psychistrists, the ones the helped me the most were the ones who actually LISTENED to me.
Learning begins with listening — to the client.
Best, Lyle